Do you ever have non-motivated days where you know you absolutely have to get something done but you just don’t want to do it? Or even worse you absolutely must get something done, such as cold calling for new clients, public speaking, networking or meeting new people to possibly date but you find yourself suddenly in intense fear and you do anything to distract yourself or avoid it? Wouldn’t it be great if you could trigger your motivation at anytime and learn how to excite yourself past your fears?
I know what that’s like, I had just put together a new tele-class to launch my business with, I was working with a couple of great coaches, I got the clarity and direction I needed, I knew who my ideal target market was and everything was all set to launch except for one thing that I did not expect to happen. I had to make a list of people who I knew and start calling them for leads.
I was terrified, first of all, I hated making phone calls and second, I didn’t want to call my friends and acquaintances to try to sell them on my program or to provide me with leads!
This went on for a month and money was running dry, no other income was coming in and I absolutely had to figure this out, however the fear I was experiencing was to the degree I never dreamed I would experience. I would have conversations with both my coaches, my accountability partners, friends, family and my relationship. They would give me pep talks that would help me feel better for the moment and even pepped me up into picking up the phone and making a single phone call.
The next day, I would be back in the same fear and resistance all over again. Each night, I prayed, I searched my book shelves for something that would help me and I searched online. All I could find was motivational and inspirational stories or sentences, that once again gave me a very temporary sense of calm but was then gone as soon as I went to make my calls.
One day, I remembered something I figured out when I was about 10 years old. I loved going to amusement parks and I really wanted to ride on a roller coaster, but I was terrified. I was so scared that I would stand in line with a friend, get all the way to the roller coaster seat, sit down and then jump out the other side before the ride started while my poor friend would ride all alone.
Each time I went to an amusement park, I was determined to ride on a roller coaster and each time I would chicken out. One day, I was in line and I realized I was focusing on how afraid I was to ride that roller coaster and the more I focused on how afraid I was, the more petrified I got. At that moment, I started expressing how excited I was to go on that roller coaster, I was telling my friend I can’t wait, I was whooping and cheering in line, I filled my body with so much excitement and joy about going on that roller coaster that there was no way that fear had even the slightest room to step in.
After that day, every time I went on a roller coaster, I did that technique and then I did it when I was a runway model and ended up winning top model, I did it in all of my speaking gigs and I would blow everyone away. I then remembered as I took this new course in my career and having to phone people, I had the cure for my anxiety in my pocket the whole time.
If you find yourself unmotivated or in fear of something you want to do or must do then try this simple exercise of getting yourself excited first, psych yourself up, dance, cheer, talk about your excitement, fill your body up with joy first and then see what happens.
If you need help on how to do this feel free to send me an email and I will be happy to help you.
In the meantime….
Go out and be happy !